Chasing the Big Picture

1 year ago on this very day I moved to the big city of Toronto. But more importantly, it has been exactly 1 year since I challenged myself to became a full time photographer.

I was done with my life as a cook, I was done with my life as an office administrator, I was done with my life working as a 7-Eleven employee or whatever other random occupation I took to make some quick cash. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed every single one of those gigs, there are skills to be gained from any job if you keep an open mind. But for me, at the end of the day when I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a dude who had become tired of running from his true calling.

As humans we are presented with the gifts of talent, and everyone has their own particular set. It is through trial and error that we are able to discover where our true passions lie, and that is what we should pursue. Many of us deny the world our greatest gifts, hiding them behind the safety of a regular paycheque or “job security”, and in doing so deny ourselves the possibility of having complete satisfaction and contentment in every single moment of our lives.

When we are underutilized in our jobs we can become frustrated and depressed. When our skills and talents go completely unrecognized by ourselves and others we become resentful. We want to feel valued in the work that we do, we want to know that what we do for 8 hours a day makes a difference, that our lives are meaningful. Not all of us are going to be curing cancer, but we can all do our part in the world by understanding what makes us special, what makes us unique, and using that to it’s full advantage to help humanity.

Thanks to the support of my parents, family, friends, mentors, colleagues and strangers, I was fortunate to discover at a young age that I had a knack for this whole photo taking thing. 7 years ago I decided to study it, 5 years ago I graduated for it, and then 4 years went by while I kept it at arms length. I was scared to take the plunge of pursuing it full time, scared of what I might be able to achieve, but mostly scared that I would fail, scared that I wasn't good enough.

After having an amazing time shooting a week long gig in Toronto back in November of 2013, the universe started throwing out signs that I was ready to take the next big step in my life. It was giving me hints that I should move to Toronto and make a fresh start as a full time freelance photographer. The only people I knew in town was my mentor Pete, the Red Bull Canada HQ crew, and a few photographers who had kindly offered to introduce me to their local scene. That would be enough, hell, blind faith would have been enough, and this was substantially more tangible than that.

After travelling around Australia, Japan and parts of Canada for the next few months I finally arrived in Toronto on the 23rd. I had no money to my name because I had spent it all on partying, which left me grinding from day dot. I imagined that when I arrived in Toronto there would be jobs available left, right and centre. That I would easily make enough money to pay the rent, buy the groceries, start paying off debt and begin purchasing new gear. It all seemed so simple, but as it turns out, this shit was tougher than I thought.

Throughout the spring and summer I sat in my room trying not to spend any money, just hoping that the phone would ring with a dream job that would get me up out of this mess. I was so tempted at times to get a part time job to help pay the bills, but I knew that was just a cop out and that the job would end up consuming all of my time. Like the amazing writer Janne Robinson says; "I don’t believe we can manifest our dream career while we are working a career that simply isn’t it. There isn’t space for it. Compare your mediocre job to being in a mediocre relationship, and you’re just waiting for that dream partner. But even if you find that dream partner, where is he/she going to sleep? Your bed’s taken. We have to create space for the things we desire to manifest in our lives."

I knew if I could stick it out just a little while longer then something would have to budge. I prayed that when times got tough I would get off my ass and manage to find a way through. I would hustle hard out of pure desperation, I would get creative and find alternative means of getting my work out there. But the truth was, I couldn't even do that. I just sat there, paralyzed by fear, unable to help myself, failing at life. I was broke and sometimes depressed, but I still found energy to love and appreciate every second of it, this is what I had really signed up for, the definition of a starving artist.

Then one day things just started to change. The storm that metaphorically clouded my summer had parted in time for the fall. Jobs started coming in, an amazing opportunity to go to Austria presented itself, my regular routine in Toronto had been established, solid friendships had been built. I was alive again, although it felt different this time, this time it was electric, this time it was sustainable.

I had discovered the joy of working for yourself, every minute of every day dedicated towards the end goal that you decide. No more time would be spent working towards someone else’s dream. This was my dream, these were my skills, and I was going to use them however I saw fit. I had finally stopped running from my destiny just long enough to see that it was possible.

Life for me today isn't ‘perfect’ in the traditional sense of the word. It’s not like I have any investments or money stashed away for a rainy day. I don't have a house, a wife, 3 kids, or 2 cars sitting in the driveway. That stuff might be nice to have in the future, but for now, what I do have is contentment and peace. A serenity that what I am doing in this moment is precisely what I am supposed to be doing. I am because I am. And that to me is worth more than anything in the world. It is the ultimate feeling of freedom, not an ounce of stress in my body, because I am always right where I need to be. Happy… content… and fancy free.

Thank you Toronto, you've given me a new me.

Something Incredible Happened

People never cease to amaze me. Today I received a gift, not from a family member or a friend, but from a person I had met just once. 5 days ago I was enjoying my coffee at the local diner while writing christmas cards to friends and family back home and around the world. A gentleman who was sitting a few seats down from me was cheerily making conversation with the waitress. His positive tone of voice was infectious and he was the sort of guy who always had a good story to tell. You find yourself sitting there in silence secretly wishing they would speak to you so you could join in the conversation. To my great delight he commented on the food that was placed in front of me (the delicious BLT from Templeton! sooo good!). That was enough to kick start an hours worth of convo about all things good; food, travelling, philosophy, the works! He had many stories for me, all of which had a lesson involved. A true teacher. A wise man who had an experience behind every word.

Before I knew it I had to head off to work and he had to continue on his merry way. We decided to exchange details, he gave me his business card and I gave him mine, I happened to mentioned that it was my last one. He kindly offered just to write down my details and save me having to give out my last card. I then told him that I was a cook up the road and that when he was in town again I would be happy to cook him dinner. He accepted.

I didn't see him the day I was expecting but he came in a day later when I wasn't in and gave a co-worker of mine something to give to me.

It was a RAK. A Random Act of Kindness.

He had gone and pre purchased 250 business cards at a local printer so that I could go and get more business cards made up.

To put it simply, it wasn't cheap, he never had to do it, he may never see me again, but he did it anyway. He did it anyway.

He made my day. I can't stop smiling as I write this. It is the kindest thing a stranger has ever done for me and I will never forget it.

Thank you Mike.

You showed me great kindness, and I will go on and do the same for someone else. I hope whoever is reading this takes inspiration from this story and goes on and does the same. What goes around comes around folks. That's the moral of this story.

Merry Christmas, and cheers to a very happy and adventurous 2011.

Dale Tidy